I have started getting bitter about love and commitment

All men are incapable of love or commitment!

Dear Diana,

I have started getting bitter about love and commitment. More specifically, about men. Most men I know have cheated on their wives. Even my parents have problems because of the aforementioned issue. I am beginning to feel that they are all like that. Maybe this is wrong.

But I feel that they are not capable of commitment. I feel very hurt, upset and scared at the idea of falling in love and getting married ever. I don't think I want to, especially since the guy is gonna cheat anyway! Are they all like that? Because I don't know anyone who has a good word to say on men, or their loyalty. Even the so-called happily married women!
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XYZ

Dear Friend,

Just because most men you've encountered are bad, doesn't mean they all are. Are all men incapable of commitment? I should think not. Are all men incapable of love? Definitely not. I'll humour you and say that most men are incapable of either or both, but definitely not all men.

Although you should consider this, mistakes make you stronger and wiser. You may not find the right guy for you right away, but at least, you will learn something from experience and not everything you take away from a relationship need be bad.

Happily married women will also tell you that in the end, their men come back to them and not to the other woman, right? Does that count as "loyalty"? Nope. But if they're saying something bad about their men, they're obviously not going to say only bad things.

How will she react?

Dear Diana,

I've been friends with a girl for two years last two years now. Since last month, I have begun feeling that I am in love with her. I would like to convey to her that I'm in love with her. She has already been dumped but I have convinced her that all guys are not like that. What will her reaction be if I tell her I love her?

Vinod

Dear Vinod,

I cannot predict someone's reaction to a confession of love. Although I can say this: if she feels the same way about you, you will know by her reaction that she has been waiting for you to say this. Bad experiences may have made her bitter, but if she is convinced that you are the genuine deal, she will react favourably.u00a0

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