'I can't muster the courage to ask out my neighbour'

Jul 17, 2017, 07:10 IST | Dr Love

I am a 24-year-old guy attracted to my neighbour. We see each other often, but I have never mustered the courage to say anything to her, and don't have a clue about whether she is interested in me either. What should I do? Also, a rider. The relationship between our families is not good. Should I forget her or simply ask her about the possibility of us getting into a relationship?
— Irfan B
This all boils down to the risk you must take if you ever want an answer to your question. If you are attracted to her and choose to forget about her simply because you can't find the courage to speak, it may haunt you at some point in your life. If she isn't interested, it will free you up because then you can move on. As for the relationship between your families, that may have some bearing on how she perceives you, but you shouldn't let that prevent you from speaking to her anyway. At the end of the day, it's not an episode of Man Vs Wild we're discussing. You simply have to ask her out for a cup of coffee. Your feelings can be discussed at a future date, if she accepts the invitation and allows you to get to know her better. One step at a time. Things happen when they will; you can't force a relationship.

My boyfriend doesn't allow me to order what I want to eat at a restaurant, simply because he's the one paying the bill. He doesn't say this explicitly, but I can sense his disapproval. I don't want him to behave like this. What should I do?
You should open your mouth and tell him you're not comfortable, because that's what normal people do. It's 2017 and his insistence on paying the bill doesn't allow him to control your life. If there's something you're not happy eating, why should it be thrust upon you? The two of you are adults. Please don't let a minor issue like this flare up into something huge.

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