'I caught her cheating on me, but want her back'

Feb 10, 2017, 08:38 IST | Dr Love

How do I get my girlfriend back? I love her a lot but she cheated on me. What do you suggest I do? — Sanjay K

If, as you say, she cheated on you, it’s obvious that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. On the other hand, if she says it was a mistake and still wants to be with you, it’s up to you to forgive her, isn’t it? If you can find it in your heart to let go of the past and move on (and this is anything but easy to do, of course), the only thing stopping you from getting her back is yourself. Have you tried speaking to her about what she did and whether or not she wants to be a part of your life? That’s where you ought to start.

We were married but ended up fighting on our honeymoon. In fact, we fought so much that we didn’t speak to each for over four days. I now regret the decision to marry and am considering a divorce. Is this a good thing?

 

A honeymoon is pretty much exactly the opposite of how the Hindi film industry depicts it. This is because, in real life, people are thrust together for the first time and compelled to figure out how to get along. To not get along is perfectly normal. In fact, even people who have been dating for years find it hard to adjust the minute they marry. I find it strange that you would consider divorce on account of a few fights so soon. You chose to marry because there was something about your partner that made you believe it was worth it. Why not think about those positive aspects instead of focusing on what you did for a week? If you commit to spending a lifetime with someone, that person deserves more than a few opportunities to make it up to you, and vice versa. Talk to your partner. Put your ego aside. And grow up.

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