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I like a girl and have proposed to her twice, but she says she is not interested in relationships and she is afraid of her parents. I love her very much though. What should I do?
— Varun J
Nothing. You should learn to accept her decision and move on with your life. If she isn’t interested in relationships, your being in love with her won’t change that. A relationship involves two people who mutually decide to be together. If it’s one-way, it’s just creepy. A lot of people are in love with Deepika Padukone too, for instance, and the chances of her being interested in any of them are extremely slim. They learn to accept that and move on. I suggest you do the same.
I have been spending a lot of time with a boy who I think I like. He likes me too, even though he doesn’t say anything specific. I think we would both like to get into a relationship, but I’m not sure if I’m ready. We have discussed it as well, and I think he’s waiting for me to show some signs of agreeing before he asks me directly. Are there signs I should look out for?
No. You’re over-thinking this. If you are both consenting adults who have feelings for each other, that’s pretty much the only sign you should be looking for. Talk about it. Don’t shy away from discussing how you both feel. What you should consider is your age though, because a physical relationship at an early age can be emotionally harmful. Also take into account how a relationship will affect other aspects of your life, such as your education or career. Think about what it means to be in a relationship before you decide. Do you have enough time to invest in one, for instance? Are you getting over someone else? These are questions that deserve a bit of introspection too. Other than that, it’s not really rocket science at all.