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Many of my friends ask me to put on more make-up because it will make me seem more attractive. I don't like make-up though. My boyfriend likes it when I put some on, but I feel uncomfortable. Is this natural?
If you don't like it, don't wear it. You don't need to write in to a dating column for advice.
I met my husband at the same office we used to work at. We became close friends, dated for a year and eventually decided to marry. It has been two years since then, and I only just found out that he is three years older than what he said he was. This has shaken me to my core because it's not just his age, it's the possibility that he could have lied to me about anything and everything. When I asked him about it, he said it was an honest mistake because he didn't want to let age get in the way of me dating him. He says he forgot to correct that 'white lie' later because, by then, we were already married. What should I do? How can I trust him?
If you trusted him enough to marry him, why do you assume he has been lying about everything just because he withheld information about his age? His explanation seems plausible enough. If you don't want to give him the benefit of doubt, you will simply have to question everything else he says. This will lead to a gradual erosion of trust, which is never a good sign in any relationship. My advice is that you evaluate him not by this piece of information regarding his age, but by his behaviour towards you. If he is kind, considerate and a good partner, isn't that all that matters, especially considering his 'crime' is simply not telling how you old he is? If you have no proof of him lying about anything else, why are you in a rush to implicate him?