'My boyfriend wants me to be more religious'

Feb 27, 2017, 06:00 IST | Dr Love

Religion is a big issue with my boyfriend, who insists I become more religious if I want him in my life. My parents don't force me, so I don't see why he should, just for a relationship.

You shouldn't be forced into doing anything you are not comfortable doing. You're an adult. And your life is yours alone.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for four years, and we are in love. Not too long ago though, I saw her with another guy, who happened to be married. She wept a lot when I confronted her, begged for forgiveness and promised not to do something like that again. Twenty days after this happened, I saw her with the same guy again. She cried again, begged for forgiveness and promised never to go out with him. I just saw her with him again. I don't know what to do. This is the third time. I love her so much that it makes me weak, and I don't think that's a good thing. What do I do? — Vikram S
Am I to assume that, because your girlfriend keeps begging for forgiveness, she admits to doing something wrong? If she is admitting to cheating on you, and has done so on three separate occasions that you know of, it's fairly obvious that she doesn't give this relationship as much importance as you obviously do. Forgiving her is proof of the fact that you do love her enough to overlook some of the things she does, but you need to ask yourself a question: at what point does forgiveness stop being as important as your partner being honest with you? If she keeps going back to this married man, as you point out, it's obvious that she isn't as happy being in a relationship with you, as you would like to believe. Also, it's obvious that you won't be able to trust her as much as you would like to. If trust and mutual respect are missing, what makes you think this relationship has a future?

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