'I'm dating my cousin's sister...'

Mar 15, 2017, 06:22 IST | Dr Love

'My cousin's sister is my girlfriend. What can I do about this? I am very confused...'

My cousin's sister is my girlfriend. What can I do about this? I am very confused. — Dharam R


I assume your 'cousin's sister' is also your cousin, considering that's how these things work. In other words, you are dating your cousin. Whether or not this is incestuous depends on which part of the world you live in, and which culture you belong to. Large parts of India frown on these kinds of relationships, so I can't really comment because I have no idea how your family looks at this. Have you spoken to someone within your family about it? Has she? The fact that it worries you means it isn't something you are comfortable with. Speak to your cousin to find out if she feels the same way. If you both feel guilty about this, it probably isn't meant to be. Attraction between cousins is common, considering how you tend to grow up together and experience adolescence and sexual attraction together. It doesn't mean you have to get into a relationship though because, as you get older, you tend to outgrow these feelings and project them on to people outside your family, as opposed to within. Speak to a few relatives or friends and find out how they feel about it.

Is it normal for two people in a relationship to not have sex more than once a month? I feel as if we should, but my girlfriend thinks this will cause problems in our relationship because we will soon get bored of each other. What should I do?

I'm not sure where your girlfriend is getting this information, but relationships can end even if two people have sex constantly like rabbits. If you think you would like to have sex more often, talk to her about it and tell her what your reasons are. This isn't like something you tick off your list. You should both want to do it, rather than allocate one day a month for it.

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