I'm a 28-year-old boy engaged to a 22-year-old girl from a conservative family

Engaged to girl I can't meet, she doesn't even call me!

Dear Diana,

I'm a 28-year-old boy engaged to a 22-year-old girl from a conservative family. I'm getting married to her this June. And since her family is very conservative, they don't allow their daughter to hang out with me either. I can only stay in touch with her by talking on phone.

The problem is that my fiance ufffd doesn't take any effort to talk to me on phone. I always try to call her. This really hurts me. And whenever she attends my calls, she talks a lot about her sister's husband. She never talks romantically with me. She doesn't care about me. I'm confused. Should I get married to this girl or break the engagement. Please help!

Subhash

Dear Subhash,

Can you really blame her for her orthodox upbringing? It's just something you will have to deal with and work around. Try and understand where she is coming from. She cannot talk romantically until she gets to know you better. She can't get to know you better until she talks to you.

A phone conversation is not quite the same as a face-to-face conversation. What is curious though, is her bringing up her sister's husband. If that's the only male connect she has, it will be awkward once you are married as she might not know how to act or react around youu00a0-- as things are goingu00a0-- a complete stranger until the two of you get to know each other better.

Of course, it would be best that her family concede to at least letting you take her out at least in the company of a chaperone. That doesn't seem like too much to ask. If they deny even that request, it's time you decided if you want to break this engagement or not.

He loves me... his mom hates me!

Dear Diana,

My boyfriend's mother hates me. She has no reason to, and if he asks why, she responds by shouting at him that she doesn't want to talk about it. On Wednesday last week, she banned me from their family home (she did last year for four months) even though I had done absolutely nothing wrong.
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He recently said that he had doubts about us, as he couldn't see how it could work with me and his mum. He lives at home and has worked with the family business for six years since graduating. His car, clothes, everything is paid for by his family.

Yaman

Dear Yaman,

I'm sorry that you are hurting so much, but it seems clear that he has made his decision. He obviously gets on well with his family if he works with them and lives at home, and the view of his mother is important to him. Sadly, it is more important to him than you are.

There is no advice that can be given to make sure that he comes back to you. I would suggest that you do not contact him at all, and you try to move on. If he really wants you, he'll contact you and say he's made a terrible mistake, but don't hold out for that, as it's not very likely. If you are meant to be together, nothing will ever stop him from being with you.

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