'He has a girlfriend, but still wants me...'

Dear Diana,
I find myself in a predicament. My guy is involved with another girl, but is attracted to me as well. He says it is perfectly okay to be attracted to both of us. He has not told his official girlfriend about me. This has been going on for almost two years. He says he is at peace with me. Never have I brought up the subject of his girlfriend. Should I just stop talking to him? He's keeping me a secret from everyone because he wants the other girl as well. I feel bad for her, but we are just so perfect for each other. I want him to break up with the other girl, but he is in no mood to do so. How do I deal with this?
— Ishmeet

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Ishmeet,
His girlfriend has no clue what is going on. It has been almost two years and it is strange that she has not got a whiff of it. You are lucky not to be caught, but sooner or later you will. It will them mess up your life as well as his. If you keep this going for any longer, it will only spell trouble for you. Remember if he liked you, he would have split with the other girl. This man is playing with the two of you. She is clueless what is going on, but you are well aware and still allowing yourself to be his girlfriend according to his convenience. This arrangement suits him fine, but why are you putting yourself in such a situation? Tell him he has to choose between you two. If he does not, stop being his girlfriend of convenience. Find someone who will commit to you. Not someone who will fool around like this guy is doing. Chances are that he might dump you for someone else.

Diana will solve it!
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