My boyfriend of four years got married two years ago.

He has never let me feel unloved and yet, I am afraid

Dear Diana,

My boyfriend of four years got married two years ago. We have taken off for vacations even after his wedding and even went 'honeymooning' to several places in India.

So far, it has been smooth sailing with no one ever discovering a thing about our relationship. He even has a year-old son with his wife, but that has not made his love for me any lesser. He still spends as much time with me as he did before.

He uses a condom as I do not wish to get pregnant and want to concentrate on my career. He doesn't ever let me suffer loneliness pangs. So why do I have these feelings of fear that this will all end and that I may end up, all alone, unloved. Are my fears unfounded?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,

Your boyfriend seems to have managed the business of adultery quite well this far. Will heu00a0 continue to? That's anybody guess. Fact of life? Men change. Circumstances change. You won't always have your youth or your beauty. He might not have the time of day once his family gets bigger.

You too seem to have sorted out the priorities in your life and appear happy with the way things are in your life. Adopt later on in life, should loneliness come knocking at your door. Your fears, unfortunately, are not unfounded.

They are, in fact, very real possibilities that could manifest themselves in coming years. Of course, it's a distant possibility but a very real one nevertheless. If it's companionship you crave, work a group of friends around you, so you don't really need to miss him.

Won't go down on her!

Dear Diana,

My girlfriend recently asked me to go down on her and I refused. We have been having sex quite often and she has never turned down any of my requests in bed and is angry that I am. But it's yuck!

Name withheld

Dear Friend,

Is it that she's unhygienic? Or is something else the problem? She never refuses you anything so you ought to return every favour, by that measure, however yuck. In any case, express your discomfort. And even if you don't, it'll show

Am I being too protective of my sis?

Dear Diana,

My sister is seeing a guy I know isn't right for her. She's not a minor and I'm sure she can take decisions on her own. I'm also sure that she can pick up after herself should she ever make a mistake choosing a guy.

Maybe it's just the protective elder brother in me speaking, but I am sure this guy is simply not meant to even be with her. And I don't even want her seeing him. Should I tell her this or my parents? They aren't aware that my sis is dating, by the way.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,

Do some legwork checking up on this guy. Check out his background, his family, his friendsu00a0 in general, the company he keeps. Do it discreetly, indirectly and anonymously. Once you're convinced you're right (or otherwise), it would be best for you to voice your apprehensions about your sis' new boyfriend to her.

Tell her that you're just a phone call away should she need you and that you won't interfere in her life more than you need to and only if she asks you to. Some girls prefer their independence and know how to get back on their feet should they falter, for everyone else, a brother like you, sounds heartening.

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