'He refuses to listen to me...'

Dear Diana,
My guy is nice and caring, but he can be quite a bore at the same time. He hates to party and would rather sit at home glued to the TV. He will not do anything until I force him. I have to literally drag him out of the house. At times, I wonder if I have made the right decision being in a relationship with him. He tells me I am too demanding. They say opposites attract, but my guy is now getting on my nerves. He says he prefers to be unassuming and low profiled. I am contemplating going my way, but I don't know how to say it. I do not want to hurt him. I have told him many times how I feel, but he refuses to change. He refuses to even listen to what I am saying.
— Sanjeevani

Illustration/Uday Mohite
Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Sanjeevani,
Your guy seems to be of a shy, reserved nature. On the other hand, you are outgoing and party hearty. If you want to continue in the relationship, you will have to learn to live and let live. As they say, to each his own. He is happy being at home, while you want to paint the town red. Instead of cribbing, try to strike a middle path. You can divide time being at home with him and planning a night out. You are arguing with him, instead of reasoning things out. Tell him exactly how you feel about his lifestyle. It is up to you to make him loosen up. Chances are that he may be so tied up at work, that he prefers to be at home. So talk to him why he prefers to be at home, instead of getting out.

Diana will solve it!
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  • Krishan Wadhwa23-Jan-2016

    Dear Sanjeevani i can sympathize with you but chances r slim that your guy will change.. Such people r Introvert types and r Satisfied n Happy n Comfortable in they way they lead their Life. Constantly Pulling him out of his shell will only make him more uncomfortable and create rifts between you both.. since he is not complaining you abt ur life style so let him be the way he is and only poke him where his presence with u is required genuinely. if u cant adapt with him than u better MOVE ON.

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