It has been a while since the guy I loved walked out on me. He suddenly snapped all ties with me and decided to disappear from my life. I did try to get in touch with him, but he ignored my calls and messages. I chose to then let him be. Even though we are not in touch, there is not a single day I do not remember him. It is as if he is still there with me, but in my memories. There is no new guy on my front, as I do not want to let go off him. Often, I feel I should try to strike a conversation with him again, but if he snubs me, it will be too much for me to handle. I prefer to live in my make- believe world where he is part of my daily life. At the rate, I am going, it looks difficult that I will overcome this guy. I have no clue where he is and what he is up to. Perhaps he is married and well settled, but I want him in my life. It is clear that he has moved on as he has not bothered to look back. How do I overcome this pining for him even after all these years?
You seem to be living in your own world and it is time you wake up to the reality. As the separation was too sudden, you still have not come to terms with it. You have not yet got over him. You need closure from this relationship. Perhaps if the guy had not suddenly walked away, or if you had an inkling of what was coming your way, you would be better prepared for it. You need to stop pining for him. The next time you think of him, just remember that he wronged you. He did not care for you nor did he have the decency to tell you that he wanted to end the relationship. This guy certainly did not deserve your love and you are in a happier space without him. He did not even think that he owed you an explanation, so why are you still moaning for the loss. Get going and let him remain your distant past.
Diana will solve it!
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