Dear Diana,
I have been with my boyfriend for four years. We have had lots of ups and downs in our relationship. It has been difficult, but we have always found a way through. Two weeks ago, however, my boyfriend told me we should split. He said our relationship was causing more misery than happiness to us. I've been heartbroken ever since. He has also stopped talking to me. He only called me once and behaved odd. He said the reason why he was calling me was to tell me that if at all we cross paths in the future, we just say a hello and move on. This has left me feeling really confused. I don't know how to deal with it. Do I just carry on with my life? I want to talk to him, but he is no mood to listen. I get the feeling he just wanted a
way out.
— Shanaya

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Shanaya,
From the looks of it, this guy indeed wanted a way out. If he really cared for you and loved you, he would not have suggested a split. Even if there are differences, you were sorting it out. So to suddenly decide to separate is surprising. He is in no mood to listen as well. It could be that he wants to move away and start afresh. Or it could be that there is someone else on the scene. It is better that you move away and let him be. This man is not giving you a reason why he resorted to such a drastic step. The very fact that he said that if you were to ever meet him, just say a hello and move on, it is clear that he does not want a reconciliation to happen. This man does not deserve your love. He cannot be trusted. It will be difficult, but you have to move on. When you feel down in the dumps, remember that he did not care for you, so why even cry for what went wrong in the relationship. He is not worth the tears.