I have been friendly with this guy for the past two months. I used to keep bumping into him at the local provision store. One day, we got talking and exchanged numbers. He stays alone in a rented apartment which is close to where I reside with my family. He now wants me to come over to his place. I have been putting it off all this while, but he is now insistent. I know what is on his mind. I'm not sure how to tell him I'm not ready to get physical with him — at least not yet. We are attracted to each other, but right now we are just talking and getting to know each other. I sometimes feel he is secretive as I do not know about his background except where he stays. He says his family is in Bhopal. Do I trust him? I do not want to tell my family members as I am not sure about him at this juncture.
You apprehensions and fears are justified, but at the same time, you might be jumping to conclusions. If he is insisting that you visit his home to give you an insight into his personal domain, there is no problem visiting his place. If he really cares for you and loves you, he will understand and not do anything against your wishes. The problem is that you are unsure. This guy might respect you or might take advantage of the situation. If you feel uncomfortable then don't go. Give him an excuse or be honest with him and tell him how you feel. If a guy is not willing to respect you and wait for you, he is not worth it. Also, by now you should be able to know what is on his mind. It appears that you two have been talking at the provision store, and he might feel he needs to take it forward. Meanwhile, you need to decide whether you are interested in him or not. If you want to take this friendship forward, get to know him better.
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