Experts, including Dr Gregory Ramey, a child psychologist have come out with a list of things that could lead to a happy married life.
People who stay married for a long time make a conscious effort at working at their relationships.
They place their commitment to each other as a higher priority than work, hobbies and even their children.
They know the best way to be a great parent is to be in a loving and long-lasting relationship.
It’s so easy to waste time talking about routine matters of work, family or chores. Happy couples talk about their dreams, fears, hopes and fantasies.
They share very private and personal feelings and thus stay emotionally engaged with their partner.
With a psychological security based on trust and communication, these couples can truly be themselves and experience that amazing feeling of being safe and accepted in another’s presence.
Next is being nice to each other. We all want to feel special, particularly from our lifelong partner.
The experts have found that little things mean a lot in a relationship.
Simple things such as a genuine compliment, a thoughtful surprise and special attention during tough times really matter.
They reflect a caring and concern that mean a lot more than flowers once a year.
Successful partners enjoy each other and they actively look for ways to have fun. They are attentive to the small accomplishments of their partners.
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. Arguments about making, saving and spending money are the No. 1 sources of tension between partners.
Good couples don’t ignore such problems, but deal with them in a respectful way with lots of compromise and communication.
They avoid bringing up past hurts but focus on coming up with acceptable solutions for both partners.
After a while, it is natural to get bored by your partner and seek excitement elsewhere.
Committed couples avoid that malaise by taking risks and trying new activities.
This adds a vitality and excitement to your relationship and makes it more enjoyable to be around your partner.
The study is published in the journal Monitor on Psychology.