There are times when your mood starts rolling downhill at such speed that you are left with no means to get a grip over whatever's going on. Having your boss scream at you seems hard to deal with at the first instance. It's one of those things that can badly set you back, unless you decide it's not such a big deal!
There are times when your mood starts rolling downhill at such speed that you are left with no means to get a grip over whatever's going on. Having your boss scream at you seems hard to deal with at the first instance. It's one of those things that can badly set you back, unless you decide it's not such a big deal!
Here are a few tips to help you keep your balance after getting a firing from your boss:u00a0Watch your breath. That's the best way to keep yourself in the present. When you are in the present, you tend to act from a point of balance rather than drawing from the past.
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Sure, you've felt bad. Accept the fact that a part of you feels offended, humiliated, upset, and angry about what happened. All of this is fine to feel. You are human after all. Accepting your feelings is the first step towards feeling better. So take a bathroom break and ACCEPT whatever you are feeling in your mind and heart. Once you have accepted yourself and your emotions, you'll see that you are feeling a few degrees better already.
Now you are in a better position to reflect. What is it that you could do next time in order to avoid the situation from repeating itself? Take a look at the situation as a third person and you are sure to find a solution. Avoid two things at all costs ufffdguilt and blame. Know that everyone does his or her best at all times. You did what you thought was right, and so did your boss. Feeling guilty about your behaviour does not take you into a better-feeling place; it just pulls you down all the more. Also, blaming the other person doesn't bring about a solution either; it alienates the two of you even further. So the best option is to communicate better in future. Now is the time to regain responsibility for yourself and for things related to you. Take responsibility for things that have gone haywire. It will help you spring back into normalcy much faster than if you spend time trying to defend your case. Dwelling on the I-shall-pay-you- back mode is not on. You can't look at it as a battle if you plan to move on with your life.
Yes, every boss-employer relationship is ultimately about power equation. But then, you don't have to be on either side. Just opt out of it. You are working because you like your job and you are making money that keeps you going. You aren't doing anyone a favour, nor is anyone doing one to you! It helps to remember this. Try to connect as a human being with this person who just happens to play the role of your 'boss'. It is most likely that s/he does not feel great about having spoken to you the way s/he did at that point. Reach out, even if you feel that s/he needs to apologize to you before anything else. Go ahead and give her a hug. Say that you feel stupid about what happened. Be the one to initiate a change in energy. Try this and you can only end up feeling like a winner.
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