'I am attracted to both guys and girls...'

Jun 12, 2014, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I'm 22 and studying. While growing up, people used to ask me if I was gay. Over the years, I have come to realise that I am attracted to men as well as women. I get turned on by attractive girls and at the same time have the hots for my beefy pals. I get turned on when I see guys working out in the gym. Is something wrong with me?
— Prachand

Dear Diana

Dear Prachand,
You are a bisexual. A bisexual person is attracted to people of his/her own gender as well as of the opposite gender. Bisexual people have the capacity to be in relationships with people of different sexes. You may, however, be under a lot of pressure how to explain to people about your sexual preferences. People's attitudes to bisexuality are confused, for them a person is either heterosexual or a homosexual, but there are many out there like you who are attracted to both men and women — though the intensity may differ.

Dear Diana,
I am a 34-year-old woman and not married. I always thought that I would tie the knot by 27. But it never happened. In December I will be 35 and there is too much pressure on me to wed. My folks tell me that my biological clock is clicking. I now fear that I am too old to get married. Every single day the only talk is when I will find Mr Right. I really do not know what to do and I am willing to marry anyone now.
— Zara

Dear Zara,
Many women nowadays get married when they are in their 30s. So it is not that you are over the hill. What you have to figure out is whether you really want to marry? Or is it because of family pressures? There is no point in getting married and leading a miserable life. You can avail of matchmaking portals or hang out with likeminded people. Keep your options open and just go with the flow.

Diana will solve it!
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