I have been married for 16 years. I have been loyal to my wife and not gone astray. We have a 14-year-old son. Last few months, however, I have been working in close association with a young female colleague who is over two decades younger to me. She joined early this year. She makes me laugh a lot. When she is around, I am in a happy space. I can connect with her. Am I in love with her? I can't take my eyes off her. It is not that there is trouble on the homefront, but I have to admit that my wife and I do not have the same spark we used to have earlier. At the same time, I do not want to ruin my work front by making my feelings known to this young girl. Nor do I want to be part of office gossip. I also don't want to upset my wife. What do I do? I also know that she has a boyfriend because she keeps talking about him.
You are going through a mid-life crisis. You have taken a fancy to this girl, but I think it is lust, not love. You know that she has a guy on her scene and is not the least interested in you. She's a bubbly, chirpy young girl who likes to spread cheer around. You are drawn to her because of her enthusiasm. It's good to have her as a colleague, but do not go any further. Right now she may have not realised what is going on in your mind, but sooner or later she will. Also, if you keep staring at her, she might get conscious. Things are going fine on your homefront, so why do you want to rock your boat. Banish any such thoughts as this girl just wants to enjoy her life and work. So be the supportive colleague and enjoy working with her. She's young and might just switch jobs if she gets a better offer. So let her be as she tries to make a career for yourself
Diana will solve it!
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