'I am caught between my hubby and boyfriend...'

Dear Diana,
I have been married for the last one year. Before my marriage I had an affair, but did not muster enough courage to tell my family. I got married to someone my parents chose, but continued to stay in touch with my boyfriend. He is still single. We are in touch every single day on phone and also meet each other on the sly. Whenever we meet, we end up getting physical. But the thing is, every time I am with my boyfriend, I feel guilty. The guilt is so much that I hate myself for continuing to keep in touch with him. At times I do not meet him, but he gets angry and annoyed. He gets upset when I do not give into his demands. I am torn between these two guys. What do I do? My husband has no clue about this. He is loving and caring.
— Shalini

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Shalini,
You are cheating on your hubby and indulging in an extramarital affair. If you were interested in this guy, you should have mustered courage and married him. By what you are doing now, you are going to ruin your husband’s life for no fault of his. You are feeling guilty because you are cheating on your hubby who has no clue about what is going on. Make up your mind who you want to be with. You will have to choose who you want to stay with. It is either your guy or your hubby.

Dear Diana,
It has been three months since we married, but my husband loves to spend time with his pals. Marriage has not affected his relationship with his bunch of buddies. It irritates me that he should be spending time with them and not me.
— Lyra

Dear Lyra,
There is a place for you as well as his pals. Marriage does not mean that he spend every minute with you. Your hubby seems to be of a friendly nature. As long as he is not neglecting you, there is no need to worry. When he is out with his pals, you should meet your buddies.

Diana will solve it!
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