I am having an affair with a guy in my neighbourhood. We are both married, but enjoy the stolen moments we share when our partners are away. He makes me feel special like no one else does. I have never felt like this before for any guy. As he works from home, he has a lot of free time on hand. His wife teaches at a coaching class, so in the afternoons she is not at home — the time when we have our rendezvous. At the same time, I’m concerned about what will happen if my husband and 14-year-old daughter come to know about our relationship. I don’t want to make things messy for my husband and child. But at the same time, I want to enjoy my married life as well as my affair. I want my husband as well as my lover. Can I keep both these worlds of mine hidden from each other? I really do not know for how long I can keep going with this guy in my neighbourhood before we get caught. What should I do?
You two are indulging in an extramarital affair. You are cheating on your spouse. You need to stop your affair or become neighbourhood gossip. You are attracted to him. Perhaps your married life may have become dull and boring and this guy is adding some spice to your life. But remember when you get caught it will not only affect your personal life, but might just make living in the same neighbourhood difficult. You cannot keep your hubby and your lover. You will have to choose between them and keep in mind the consequences. Also, this guy might be using you to satisfy his sexual urges. There is no future in this relationship as you two will go back to your respective partners. It is better you go your way before a nosey neighbour gets a whiff of your romance and make things hell for you.
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