My marriage date has been fixed, but I’m wondering whether I’m doing the right thing. I know the girl, so there are no apprehensions on that front. I feel marriage is a societal norm observed for others’ sake, not ours. I seem to be suffering from pre-marriage jitters. My biggest worry is whether I’ll be a good husband or not.
Everything is okay, but you are still worrying, so it could be labelled as pre-wedding jitters. Many people go through it and harbour thoughts whether they are doing the right thing. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a love marriage or an arranged one. It’s this feeling of marriage being a life-changing experience that often makes people get jittery in the run up to the big day. Keep yourself busy with the preparations and whenever you have any such pangs of anxiety, remember you are going to spend your life with the woman you love.
I’m 20 years old and in love with my 25-year-old cousin. He is in a relationship with someone else. He is well aware that I always loved him. In fact, during his college days, he was going out with me. We bonded well and now he has a new girlfriend. Of late, he has also begun to avoid me, but I still feel for him. I don’t know how to move on from him.
It is clear that he is no longer interested in you. May be when he was younger he was attracted to you, but now that he is older and maturer he has found someone else. You need to have a frank talk with him and find out what is going on in his mind. If he is serious about the girl, you need to move on in life and go your way. You are still young, give yourself time to heal and I am sure you will find someone else.
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