'I am having an extra-marital affair...'
I've been in a relationship with a married woman for about six months now. I am also married. She tells me she is having a lot of issues with her husband. As I am her office colleague, I was initially her shoulder to cry on, but we ended up getting close and one thing led to another. We have kept our relationship discreet, but at the same time I am aware that what I am doing is wrong. I am indulging in an extra-marital affair. There are times I want to break away, but then get drawn towards her. I really do not know what the future holds for us. She tells me she will be shattered if I leave her. I am confused. She tells me she wants to leave her husband and be with me. This is impossible as my wife is loving and caring. It is me who has gone astray and my wife has no clue. What do I do? How do I get away from the mess I have created during one weak moment when I got carried away?
You created the mess and you will have to clear it. You clearly know you are having an extra-marital affair and so is this office colleague of yours. It is a relationship which spells doom. The woman has got an agenda as she does not get along with her husband. But you are in a happy and loving marriage, so why are you going astray? Your colleague is enjoying the attention you are giving her and she will want it to remain that way. It is you who will have to say no to her. Get going as soon as possible and tell her to work on her marriage. It will be a tough proposition, but this is the best way out for you. You will have to cut all ties with her and even look for another job perhaps. Being with her, you will be creating upheaval in two homes. You never know, tomorrow she might patch up with her hubby and leave you in the lurch.
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