I have fallen for my cousin's wife. They got married three months ago. I just do not know how to stop myself from fantasising about her. I am 19 years old and she is 26. From the day I saw her as a bride for the first time, I was attracted to her. I can't take my eyes off her. She often drops in at home to meet my parents and we get along well. I often forward her SMS jokes and sometimes, she, too forwards them to me. I am in love with her. What do I do? I do not know how to tell anyone about it. I know my cousin will blow his top when he finds out. I want to hang out with her. The other day, I told her about going to watch a film and she agreed. I just can't wait for the day when I can take her out. Do you think she will dump my cousin for me?
You are living in your dream world and you know what the reality is. To say that your cousin will get enraged is to put it mildly, your entire family will be gunning for you. Your cousin's wife has no clue what is going on in your mind. She is being nice to you, but that does not mean that she, too, has fallen for you. You seem to have a crush on her, but you are mistaking it for love. Hopefully, this will remain a secret because if other family members get to know about it, all hell will break loose in the family. It will not only shock your cousin's wife, but will leave her in a mess. Banish any such thoughts. Hopefully, you will overcome her over a period of time. For starters, steer clear from her path. Interact with her only when you have to. You are only 19, so concentrate on your studies for now. There is no future with this woman, so let her be while you get on with your life.
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