I am still in touch with my ex!

Dear Diana,
Hi. I'm a 24-year-old software professional. I broke up with my girlfriend three months ago. But since then we've kept in touch over the phone. In fact, we chat nearly every other day and update each other about our daily life. It may sound creepy but we haven't met even once since we separated. We simply engage in verbal communication, nothing else. It makes us happy to be in a platonic relationship for a change but I don't know where we are going with this. To be honest, neither does she. I can assume that it's not a crime to be in keep contact with one's ex but I'm not sure whether it's healthy, either. 
- Daniel

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Dear Daniel,
Good heavens! You are one confused soul. Make up your mind whether you have broken off with her or are still with her. If you say you have called it quits, why do you want to tell her what's going on in your life. You may not physically meet but have you heard of something called phone sex. Your constant talking is going to lead to that.  Also, if you plan to find another girl, it would not be fair to her if you indulged in your phoneathons. If you can talk to her, why can't you meet her? A break-up means that person is out of your life. It does not mean that you don't meet (so no physical intimacy) but talking is okay. It means you have nothing to do with the person and if you ever bump into each other, you have to be cordial. You need to check the meaning of the term before you say you have broken up.

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