I have been with my boyfriend for seven months. Last week, he told me about a problem he has — one of his kidneys does not function. He told me that it has no impact on his daily life. A person can survive on one kidney. I told him that it does not really concern me and that no one would know till he told them. Nor did I ask him if he has sought any treatment for it. But I worry that it could cause problems between us. Ever since he confessed to me his health issue, things have not been the same between us. I can sense the uneasiness in him. At the same time, I am worried how my family will deal with the news if we take our relationship to the next level. Should I discuss it with him? I do not know how my family members will react.
Your guy has been frank and forthright. He is serious about the relationship due to which he has told you his health issue. There are people who donate a kidney, so it is no big deal living with one kidney. So, all your fears are unwarranted. You are apprehensive about how your family will react, but there is no need to worry. If your folks have reservations about him, seek medical opinion to quell their fears. Perhaps your behaviour towards him have changed after he confessed due to which he is withdrawn and uneasy. You should have talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. He is on tenterhooks so you need to put him at ease. Tell him not to worry or feel inadequate.
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