I am 31 and single. Five years ago, I was in a relationship with a girl. We had got engaged too, but later we broke off. Her family did not approve of me as I did not have a job. I am part of the family business along with my father and uncle. We run a bookstore. Her family members felt that I should have my own identity, but I prefer being part of the family business. She tried to convince her folks, but they did not relent. Ever since my engagement broke off, I have not had any girl on the scene. I now feel like settling down. For some reason, I believe that I will never get married due to my broken engagement. How do I find someone who will understand me? Why should I work elsewhere when we have our own bookstore?
A broken engagement does not mean that you will never get married. There are multitudes of people out there who find a partner even after a break up. So do not lose heart. Most people get married eventually. Some get married early, some at a later stage. Let the break up remain where it is — in the past. There is no point brooding about it and wallowing in self-pity. Being part of the family bookstore means you are working. That is your job. The girl's family may have had reservations, but not everyone out there will think likewise. After the break up, it appears that you have cut yourself from the social scene. Hang out with your pals, you never know when and where you will meet that someone special. You can also register on a matrimonial website or ask your family and friends to help you find a suitable match. At the same time, you cannot go looking for love, it happens. So be patient.
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