I was dumped by my girlfriend after being together for four years. We spoke of a future together, but little did I know what was going on in her mind. I splurged her with gifts and went out of my way to make her happy. I thought she was the woman for me, but I was sadly mistaken. Two weeks ago, to my shock, she suddenly announced that her parents had fixed a match for her. She then told me her parents were not in favour of me. This, after dropping in at their place for years and being referred to as their prospective son-in-law. We were open about the relationship and both our families knew about us. I am wondering what has gone wrong. She refuses to talk to me or even listen to what I have to say. I do not know what has caused this sudden change in her.
You were perhaps so blinded in love that you did not see her true self. Your anger and frustration is justified because she certainly owes you an explanation. Suddenly she decided to call it quits. There is definitely more to it than meets the eye. It is strange that when you were going around, her parents did not raise any objections. How come they suddenly raised an objection now? If she loved you and cared for you, she would not have resorted to such a drastic move. This woman was not interested in you, but in the stuff you gave her. You need to walk away and let her be. It will no doubt be difficult, but that is the only option left for you. A common friend or a relative who can talk to her can find out what caused this drastic change in her. This might help you get closure.
Diana will solve it!
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