'I don't know how to tell him I like him...'

Dear Diana,
I've been hanging out with this guy for a while now. We are a bunch of friends and he became part of the group two months ago. I feel I'm falling in love with him. I don't want to tell him because I'm afraid how he will react. I dream of marrying him. He's always so nice to me. But at the same time, I don't know if this guy likes me. I just don't know what I should do. The others in the group have been telling me that he appears interested in me. I always catch him looking at me or if I don't talk to him he makes his way to where I am. Is there any way to make it easier? Often, I find myself tongue-tied when I am alone with him. I don't know if this behaviour of mine is putting him off. I don't know if I should tell the others in the group about my feelings. There is this constant fear that he may fall for someone else and I will end up losing him.
— Shehla

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Shehla,
First of all, put all your fears and apprehensions to rest. He is part of your group of pals, so it will not be too difficult to find out if there is another girl on the scene. Instead of falling prey to hearsay, you can casually ask him the question. From the looks of it, there is no one on the scene as you say that he keeps looking at you — or tries to be wherever you are. These are clear-cut signs that he is interested in you. Stop wasting time on pondering whether he likes you and trying hard to get to know what is on his mind. By doing so, you are sending him mixed signals and actually putting him off. There is no gameplan to follow — you will be able to feel and gauge from his behaviour that he likes you. So instead of imagining things and worrying too much, go with the thought that he too is interested in you. Just let things take a normal course.

Diana will solve it!
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