I met this guy at a Christmas bash. We exchanged numbers and I was surprised to find him calling me the next morning. He phones or SMSes me at least three to four times a day. My pal tells me he is interested in me and that is the reason why he is calling me all the while. I think things are happening too fast, too soon. He even asked me to accompany him to a New Year's eve bash, but I told him that I had to be with my family. Now he is telling me to meet him. He has left the venue to me. I am 22 and have just started working at a call centre. Right now, I don't mind him being a pal, but he is expecting more from me. How do I tell him that I do not want to go on a fast track with him? I barely even know him at the moment. The common friend's party we attended says that he had accompanied one of her guests, so she does not know him too well. I am attracted to him, but at the same time I want to play safe.
Your fears are justified as you barely know him. It is clear that this guy is interested in you. He seems to have fallen for you hook, line and sinker. He is going fast on his front as he does not want to lose you. He has no clue if there is anyone on your scene, so he has been dropping enough hints to tell you that he is single and ready to mingle. If you are interested in him, there is no harm in meeting him at a coffee place or at a mall. May be if you get to know him, things will be clearer at his end. Depending on how he comes across when you meet him, you can take things further. You are playing hard to get, so he is wooing you. As you are not responding to his feelings, he is trying his best to impress you. Perhaps he is a nice guy all out to sweep you off your feet, so meet him and then decide whether he is your type.
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