'I don't know much about my paramour...'

Dear Diana,
I am a married woman in love with a guy for the past year. He is also married and has kids. My paramour knows everything about me, but I don't know much about him. He says he is in a bad marriage. He has not even showed his wife's picture to me while I have told him everything about myself. He's the smart one in our affair. Why is he so guarded?
— Kiran

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Kiran,
First of all you are playing with fire and get ready to get scorched when your husband and folks find out about your affair. You are a fool to trust him and tell him all the details of your personal life when he is so guarded about his life. It appears that he is using you to satisfy his urges due to a bad marriage. One day he will be bored and walk away leaving you in the lurch. Be wary of this man.

Dear Diana,
I'm 26 and from Kanpur. Five months ago, I got married to a Mumbai-based guy. We stay in a rented place in Malad. My hubby is out of the house the entire day. He leaves early in the morning and comes home late night. He has no time for me nor does he help in any of the household chores on his day off. He tells me as his folks were insisting on his marriage, so he had to marry. It was an arranged match. At times I feel he has someone else on the scene. Or may be I am just imagining things. What should I do?
— Harini

Dear Harini,
Mumbai is a new place for you, but it is now home for you. You need to make friends and can start by likeminded people in the neighbourhood. You can also enroll for some creative activity class of your choice where you can meet new people. Or take up a job to keep yourself occupied. An idle mind harbours idle thoughts so keep yourself occupied.

Diana will solve it!
Write to Diana at, or fax her on 24112009. You can also post letters to Dear Diana, Mid Day, Peninsula Centre, Dr S S Rao Road, opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital, Parel, Mumbai 400012



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