'I feel insecure when my guy talks to a female pal...'

May 27, 2014, 06:16 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I'm 25 and my guy is 27. I'm jealous and suspicious by nature. I feel insecure when he talks to a female pal or pays too much attention to his mom. I know I'm sounding weird, but that's how I am. I don't know how to bring about a change in my attitude.
— Ureeta

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Ureeta,
With this kind of attitude, everyone and everything is under suspect for you. As you have a suspicious mind, you are always ill-at-ease as you are constantly looking for something you feel is amiss. You need to stop being paranoid as this kind of thinking can result in a personality disorder. Just because your guy speaks to a girl does not mean that he is having an affair with her. And if he talks to his mom it does not spell that he loves you less, There is space for you and his mom. This kind of behaviour will only end up irritating your guy. Stop being suspicious and seek counselling if you think you have no control over it.

Dear Diana,
I'm 21 and in college. I am perhaps the only one not on social media. All my classmates are active on Facebook, Twitter as well as have their blogs. My boyfriend keeps urging me to create a profile on a social networking site, but I'm too scared of sharing my pictures or giving out information to strangers. My guy thinks it is strange that I am not on social media. But I do not feel the need for it.
— Samaira

Dear Samaira,
As they say to each his or her own. If you are not comfortable doing something, it is better you refrain from it. May be you are of a reserved nature and do not want to share your photos and information with others. At the same time it is not that you are anti-social. Tell your guy that you like to keep in touch personally over phone and meetings rather than through the Internet.

Diana will solve it!
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