'I fell for a serial cheater...'

Apr 24, 2015, 06:22 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I fell for this man who turned out to be a cheat. It was perfect with him for about a year till his past caught up. I was shocked to know what he had done. He was a serial cheater. He would woo me with flowers, cakes and holidays. He spoke well, but it was a facade behind the real him. I found out that he had a string of broken relationships. He was also on the verge of getting married once, but he broke off with her as someone else had caught his fancy. I just couldn't understand from where he got so much money to splurge. Only after breaking off from him, I realised that he was also a swindler. He would strike partnership deals and then cheat people saying the business went into a loss. Due to his smooth talking ways, he got away. What should I do? Take him back or dump him?
— Aidah

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Aidah,
This man did not make amends in the past, so what makes you think he will be a changed person now? You have to judge his present and the past. A relationship is based on trust, but this man cannot be trusted at all. He will go back to his philandering ways. He has been getting his way, so he does not care for anyone. Don't make the mistake of getting back to him. He is irresponsible and not worthy of your love. You can use your break up as a wake up call so that you do not fall prey to such guys again. This man knows how to charm women to see who else is naive. He is definitely not marriage material. You may have been honest and forthright with him, but did he care for your feelings? He has an agenda and when it is done, he moves on to another. Be glad that you found out about his real self, before things went too far.

Diana will solve it!
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