I have developed extremely strong feelings for one of my husband's friends who is married. I know it is wrong but I feel we would have been better off together. These feelings started when we all went for a vacation to Goa. I thought he was more my type. But I really have no clue what he thinks about me. I get along very well with him and he is comfortable with me. We keep on chiding each other and behave like two squabbling kids. I can tell him anything as he is of a friendly disposition. We even text message each other fighting over petty things. It appears that these feelings will never fade. What do I do?
Illustration/ Satish Acharya
You are playing with fire and it will scald not only you but your hubby, his friend and his wife. You say you have developed a strong attraction to this guy, it means you are not in love, but you are in lust. Moreover you say you have no idea what's going on in his head. As your letter states he is of a friendly nature. Perhaps you are mixing his friendliness towards you and those text messages that he might be interested in you. You need to stop your fantasy relationship and refocus on your marriage. Remember this is going to get you no where but to misery and you will be affecting several people's lives.