I have never had a girlfriend

Dear Diana,
I am 27 and without a girlfriend. In fact I have never had a woman in my life and not that I did not try. Several of my pals are married or about to be. Some are on the way to fatherhood. A while back I tried to impress a colleague at my workplace but soon realised that she was not the least interested in me but in another colleague. I am goodlooking (at least I think so!), educated, dress well and with a steady job. I often get the feeling that I am not destined to be with anyone. I have read many self-help books on confidence but still they have had no effect on me. Am I trying too hard or not hard enough? 
- Jamshed

Illustration/ Satish Acharya

Dear Jamshed,
You make it sound as if it is the end of the world for you. But it's far from it. You say you have everything going for you, so what is it that is holding you back? Do you suffer from low self-esteem? Or do you lack social skills? Some people are shy and really can't strike a conversation and get left behind. Or perhaps you have set an extremely high standard for yourself. If there is nothing inherent, then why are you feeling so pressurised to have a girlfriend? Just let things be, don't push yourself. I am sure you will find someone. No one goes out there to find love, love happens.

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