I am 29 and in love with a divorcee who is 35. My problem is that I do not know how to tell my family about her. They are, meanwhile, looking for a suitable match for me. I am keen to marry her. She has a six-year-old daughter who lives with her. Though she looks younger than her age, I still can't muster courage to tell them about her and her daughter. Her marriage ended in a divorce as her ex-hubby had an extramarital affair. I have kept my relationship hidden from my near and dear ones. I now find myself increasingly caught between her and my family. I think my parents will not accept her. At the same time, she does not want to rush into a second marriage considering her past experience. She says she needs time. What do I do? I feel my family will not accept her.
You are assuming that they will not accept her. If you are serious about her, you will have to tell them. May be first tell a family member you are comfortable with. Then he/she can be around when you inform your parents. You will have to muster courage for this — sooner or later. Age is a number and if there is a connect between you two — the age gap and divorce does not matter. But still, there will be that fear as her first marriage has gone wrong. You are mature enough, so have a talk with her family members as well. As her earlier marriage failed, she wants to be sure — the reason she wants time. There will be hushed whispers and eyebrows will be raised about the alliance. This is something you will have to be prepared for. Listen to the fears that your family will express about the alliance. They want the best for you, so their fears are justified. You will need to go ahead with an open mind and then take a decision.
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