'I love my girlfriend, but not her temper'

Jul 04, 2016, 06:00 IST | Dr. Love

Q. I love my girlfriend a lot but she sometimes loses her temper with me. I have managed to deal with it for a while now, but her anger tires me. What do I have to do to maintain this relationship?
A. Was she always like this? If she was, you knew what you were getting into, didn't you? You chose to accept her the way she was back then, so why get upset now? If she wasn't always like this, however, have you tried to figure out what triggers this anger? Is it always something you have done or does she lose her temper with a lot of other people too? Maybe her anger springs from some other cause, and she has no outlet for it apart from you. The best thing to do is communicate, and get her to open up to you about what bothers her. If she understands how important this relationship is to you, she may re-evaluate her behaviour. Either way, she needs to know how you feel, and vice versa.

Q.Do you think an arranged marriage is better than a love marriage? I haven't been able to fall in love with anyone, so I'm curious.
A. I'm not sure what you mean by 'better'. There are only good marriages or bad marriages, and these can happen to anyone, irrespective of how they met. This is why some people who marry for love end up with a divorce after six months, while strangers who meet only after the ceremony live happily together for the rest of their lives. The opposite of this is also true, of course. What it all boils down to is simple: how much do you want your marriage to work? People who have successful marriages pull it off because they work hard to keep it that way. It requires a lot of adjustments and patience. If you have these in abundance, you're good to go.

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