'I'm 28 and have never had a girlfriend...'

Mar 12, 2014, 08:30 IST | Diana

Dear Diana,
I’m 28 and have always stayed away from girls. No surprise that I don’t have a girlfriend. I don’t know what to talk about when girls are around, let alone flirt with them. I have tried to strike a conversation with the girls at office and at parties, but I just can’t. It’s like I’m the worst talker ever. I can’t pick up a topic to converse nor crack a joke. I’m hopeless when it comes to socialising. I’m afraid I’ll end up all alone. 
— Vanraj

Dear Diana

Dear Vanraj,
Stop thinking too much about it and just go with the flow. There is no need to get tongue-tied when it comes to talking to girls. Observe how other guys conduct themselves. Don’t be on an overdrive or act dumb when they are around. Be your normal self, first make friends and then find that someone special. Also, remember just like you have your own set of apprehensions, others too have theirs. And remember girls are human too, so don’t make it sound like they are aliens and you don’t know what to do when they are around.

Dear Diana,
There is this supervisor at my workplace I have a huge crush on. Last year, I gave her a Christmas gift and on Valentine’s Day I gave her a box of chocolates. For Women’s Day, too, I gave her a gift. Now, everyone in office is assuming there is something going on between us. Her boyfriend, who also works with us, is furious and I have become the butt of jokes in office.
— Nihar

Dear Nihar,
Knowing fully well that she has a guy at the same workplace, you still went ahead showering gifts on her. What were you thinking? You have made a laughing stock of yourself as there is only you in the relationship. Get packing and move on and let the girl remain with her guy. You are messing up your personal and professional life.

Diana will solve it!
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