'I'm afraid my hubby-to-be will know about my past...'

Apr 25, 2014, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I'm 30 and getting married to this wonderful man. I have had physical relationships with two guys in the past. I am ashamed of it. I'm afraid if my hubby-to-be finds out, how he will react. I am terrified of him learning about my affairs. Should I tell him of my past or just be quiet. I am not in touch with the two guys nor do I know about their whereabouts. My hubby-to-be has not asked me about my affairs nor have I questioned him.
— Chitra


Dear Chitra,
It all depends how mature your guy is. Some guys start suspecting their wives when they are told the truth. Some are so immature that they start doubting their wives. You are not in contact with the two guys, so it is not that you are two-timing anyone. That was your past. You have moved on and so have these guys. He has not told you about his past nor has he asked you about yours, so it is better that you keep mum. Forgot the past and begin a new life with a new guy.

Dear Diana,
My boyfriend insists on a physical relationship. I have been playing along as he pays me a lot of attention. But now I am finding it a bit of a chore. He demands a physical relationship that lasts for over an hour. I find it often uncomfortable as I want to get over with it as fast as possible. Whenever I do not give in, he gets upset. He then sulks and does not talk to me for days.
— Dhimi

Dear Dhimi,
Your guy seems to have sex always on his mind. Tell him that his overdemanding attitude is making you feel increasingly stressed about having sex with him. A good relationship is based on communication, so it's okay to tell him what you don't like doing. You will need tact to explain to him. If he does not listen, you have to take a call and decide whether you want to be in the relationship.

Diana will solve it!
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