I have a boyfriend, but my family is unaware of his existence. We have been together for over a year. As we have been cautious, it is a well-guarded secret. I had met him at a common pal's birthday bash. I have not told anyone about him, nor has he about me. I really do not know what the future holds, but now my parents have lined up a guy for me. I do not blame them as they are unaware of my boyfriend's existence. I do not have the courage to tell them about him. I feel they will not accept him due to his socio-economic background. Now he is pressurising me to tell them about him. At the same time, I am keeping up appearances with this guy they have arranged for me. They want me to hang out with him and get to know him. He's charming and earnest. I do not know for how long I can do this balancing act. I am caught between these two guys and feel guilty about what I am doing.
It is time you choose between the two guys. You cannot do this balancing act for long as sooner or later you will be caught and then all hell will break loose. If you are serious about the guy you have been hanging out with, you need to inform your folks ASAP. You have been with him for over a year and strangely you have not told him about his existence — nor do they have a clue. You are assuming they may not accept him, but you have kept them in the dark, so you do not know for sure their reaction. The current situation will only make you miserable, confused and torn between the two. You need to find a way out and not hurt the parties involved. If you are serious about your guy, go tell your family and let them meet him, before they jump to conclusions. You are being unfair to this guy they have lined up for you. He is trying to woo you, unaware of the truth. So stop the facade and make a choice.
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