'I'm cheating on my wife...'

Dear Diana,
I'm 42 and have been married for 15 years. I am having an affair with a colleague at my workplace. She is also married. I got attracted to her and once during a work outing we got physical. We have been together since the past six months. When she is around, I can't keep my hands off her. At the same time, we have been discreet and no one in the office knows about our affair. She tells me her husband does not care for her. But, of late, my guilty conscience is not letting me be at peace. I know I am cheating on my wife and she is cheating on her husband. I do not know where we are headed. At the same time she tells me she can't leave her husband. I can't tell my faithful wife what is going on in my life. I am finding it difficult to make a choice. What should I do?
— Prasad

Dear Prasad,
You will have to make a choice. You are indulging in an extra marital affair and so is your colleague. Sooner or later you will be caught, so be prepared for a storm in your life. If your conscience is biting you, then you need to stop getting physical with this woman. Let her remain just a colleague and nothing more. Telling your wife what you are up to depends on how mature she is to handle it. If she is in no mood to forgive, it will affect your marriage. Are your prepared to go through the turmoil? From what you have said this other woman, too, will dump you the day she is bored of you. She has already told you that she cannot leave her hubby. Get the hint and get going with your life and work towards building your marriage.

Diana will solve it!
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  • BV18-Nov-2015

    Diana ,Your advice is very misleading, your suggesting that the man telling his wife depending on 'her maturity' is really regressive.He clearly mentions that his wife is faithful and the best policy would be honesty, an honest open discussion with his wife about what has conspired all along,along with the lury details if she seeks themNow is this man mature enough to do that or would he rather stick his tail between his legs and pretend nothing happened and continue fooling his wife ?

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