I am 19 years old and have taken a fancy to this girl I met at an ice cream parlour. She was with her friends and I was with my group of pals. The moment I saw her, I felt something. I kept staring at her and was keen to get to know her. Though scared, I made my move my accidentally dropping my ice cream on the floor when walking past her. The attendants gave me dirty looks, but I managed to get her attention. She appeared apologetic and I heard her say, “Poor thing.” She and her pals even offered to buy another ice cream cone for me, but I refused. Now off and on we bump into each other at the parlour. Once I even followed her and realised that she and her pals stay in the vicinity and that's the reason they hang out often there. I want to get to know her. What do I do?
First of all, stop following her and her gang of pals. She might think you are stalking her. Secondly, now that she knows you by face at least, it will not be difficult to get talking to her. The next time she is at the parlour, get a table next to her. Just flash a smile and hopefully the conversation will flow. But at the same time, go slow. Do not be in a tearing hurry to get to know her or you might put her off. At the same time, you can also befriend her pals who will then introduce you to her. You will have to be patient and take things one at a time. You are keen to know her as you have fallen for her, but you do not know if there is anyone on her scene. So do not start thinking of a future with her — at least till you get to know her.
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