My wife and I have been having a lot of fights over several issues. We have been gunning for each other and things have become so bad now that we do not want to see each other. We have decided to stay apart for the next couple of months. She has gone back to stay at her mother's place with our six-year-old daughter. In a fit of rage, I agreed to her condition of staying apart for a while. What I did not realise was how much I would miss my daughter. My wife is acting difficult and not allowing me to see her. We have ended up fighting over this issue now even though we are staying apart. As the days past, I remember my child a lot. My wife only allows me to talk to her on the phone twice a week. What do I do? If she is acting tough now, I shudder to think how she will be after a divorce. What do I do?
Your wife cannot stop you from meeting your child. It is unfair and wrong. Nor can she state that you can talk to her on the phone only twice a week. Your problem is with your wife, not with the child. In the future, if you seek divorce, you can get visitation rights to see your daughter. No one can stop you from meeting your daughter. If you and your wife are on collision course, seek advice from an elder in the family. One of them will have to knock sense into her head and explain that she needs to stop behaving in such a manner. Or strike a deal that you will spend time with your kid over the weekend. At the same time, do not allow your child to suffer as it will be emotionally traumatic. Keep her away from the negativity.
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