'I spend more time away from my guy...'
I'm 26 and my guy is 27. We have been together for two years and are thinking of a future together. He is in the advertising field while I work in a travel agency. Both our jobs require extensive travelling. We spend more time without each other, rather than with each other. We have our own set of friends who we hang out with. I love cooking and during my travels indulge in local foodstuff. Someday, I hope, I can run a restaurant. Recently, a pal of mine told me that the way we are going, it is highly unlikely that we will end up with each other. She feels I am too caught up with my own things than be with him. Do you think what we are doing is detrimental to our relationship? Is it okay to do your thing rather than do everything with your partner? I have spoken about it to my guy, but he just laughed it off.
Your guy was right about just laughing it off. Your pal may feel that you have to be constantly together to sustain a relationship. But there is something called 'me time' which is important for any couple. You are career conscious and indulging in what you love — cooking. There is nothing wrong with it. When you are not around, your guy is also busy with his advertising work and his life. When you are with him, you get undivided attention and that is what matters. There is something called quality time rather than quantity time. You are not cheating on him, so there is no need to feel guilty. Everyone is entitled to their own space and time. Do not pay heed to what your friend says. Your guy has no problems, so why are you even thinking about it? Enjoy the current phase of your life and be happy with the way things are happening.
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