Some of the blame has to be put on me because I used to discourage him from having sex when we were in our late 30s. My husband often watches blue films late in the night. Is this his way of seeking sexual gratification.Or is he cheating on me?
It looks like your husband finds watching porn the way out for sexual gratification. If you think he is cheating on you, it is you alone to blame. You lost interest may be because of the drudgery of daily life, but he preferred to keep quiet all these years. There are many couples who lose interest in sex over the years, for them companionship matters. You maybe a great mother, good homekeeper, but there is no physical intimacy left. This is what you wanted, so there is no point cribbing that he watches porn. As long as he is not addicted to it, ignore it — most guys do, it is considered a man thing.
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