'I've been flirting with my boyfriend's pal...'
I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for five years. However for about a year, I've been having feelings for this close friend of his. He is one of our closest friends. I can't stop thinking about him. We flirt all the time when no one's around, but we've never actually spoken about how we feel. I'm so scared of telling it to my boyfriend.
Your guy has no clue what his buddy and girlfriend are up to. You two have hooked up and he blindly trusts you two. He will soon lose not only his best buddy, but also his girlfriend. Make up your mind and tell the truth before your guy finds out and all hell breaks loose.
I got married last November to a guy of my parents' choice. My husband keeps disappearing on weekends every now and then. He remains unavailable and his phone is switched off. Initially he would tell me it was due to work reasons, but last week he confessed that he is still in touch with his girlfriend whom his parents did not approve of. The days when he goes missing is when he has escapades with his girl. Since this confession, I haven't been at ease. Should I let him go? He has ruined my life for no fault of mine.
If your hubby still pines for his girlfriend, there is no point in for you to stay in the marriage. He may have made an honest confession, but it has come too late. He now needs to speak up and let his family as well as your folks know what is going on. It is going to be tough for you, but it is better this way as this man will continue with his extra-marital affair. He will have to choose between you and her. And the faster he does, it is better for you. He ruined your life and he needs to realise the mess he has created.
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