'I want to move on from my alcoholic guy...'

Apr 23, 2014, 06:10 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I am in a relationship with a guy who has a drinking problem. He is abusive and goes berserk when drunk including sleeping around with other women. As I love him, I have been turning a blind eye. I recently met another guy who is caring and loving. He proposed to me as he wants to marry me. I know that I have no future with the first guy. Should I just go by my heart this time?
— Janice


Dear Janice,
Why do you even have to make a choice? Isn't it clear that you are being abused in the relationship, but still holding on. You know the guy is not going to change, so why even give it a chance? Now that you have found love again and a guy who cares, move on. What you are doing is the right thing as this man just does not care for you nor respects you. It's been a while that you have patiently borne his abuses, there is nothing left in this relationship except pain. It is better that you begin anew with this new guy.

Dear Diana,
I'm in love with a girl in the neighbourhood. I think she feels the same about me. I recently found out that my best friend has also been angling for her. A common friend tells me that he is trying to create a rift between me and the girl I like. I don't understand how he can even think of doing such a thing. I'm confused.
— Dharmesh

Dear Dharmesh,
These friends of yours are unnecessarily trying to create a rift between you and your girl. They have vested interests and seem to be working overtime to mess up things. Turn a blind eye to them as long as you know the girl likes you. The other guy may be trying to befriend her, but remember she is yours for keeps. As you are reacting to whatever they say, they are repeatedly feeding you with information about what is going on in the other guy's mind. When you turn a deaf ear, they will stop feeding you with nonsense.

Diana will solve it!
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