I broke up with my girlfriend last week. We were together for about a year, but realised that we were simply pretending to be in love. She thinks I am too bookish while I feel she is vain. She was getting bored of me and that led to me call it quits. I wish I could have worked on the relationship and kept it going.
Now that you have taken a decision, why are you still regretting it? You should have reflected on what is amiss in your relationship, sat down and talked it out with your girlfriend and sorted things out. You took the extreme step as you felt you were not made for each other. You may have been the opposite of her in nature, but as they say opposites attract. Things however did not work out in your case. It is best to move on instead of wallowing in self-pity. Next time work on the relationship before taking a decision.
I'm 30 and have a well-paying job. I stay alone in Mumbai. I have an active sex life. I used to enjoy myself with different women every weekend, but I'm getting bored of the routine now. I don't want to continue this lifestyle. I want to settle down, but I don't know what I want either. Besides, given my reputation who would want to fall in love with me?
You are one confused soul and don't know what to do now. First, clear your messed up life and decide what you want to do in your life. Put your act together and take control of the situation. If you want to settle down with one woman, you will need to stop womanising. Hopefully you have had protected sex or you will end up with sexually transmitted diseases. After you have made amends, people will notice the change in your life and hopefully you will find that someone special.
Diana will solve it!
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