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Is d sngle Indian guy at a los 4 wrds?

Updated on: 23 May,2012 08:13 AM IST  | 
Dhara Vora and Aviva Dharmaraj |

In the age of speed dating, men are struggling to express their feelings in '160 characters or less', according to a recent survey. Five brave men, let Dhara Vora and Aviva Dharmaraj in on their SMS secrets and tell us what they really mean when they say they're 'too busy'

Is d sngle Indian guy at a los 4 wrds?


Arjun Sharma, 26, Management consultant
Relationship status: Single


1. Do you worry about what to SMS a woman who you might be interested in?
Yes. I worry if I am saying the right thing, and if my answer is what is expected.


2. Do you follow any SMS rules?
Yes. I don’t use short forms, as it can get complicated. I type complete sentences.

3. What’s the one thing that a girl might say over SMS that could put you off?
If I crack a joke and she says it's ‘lame’. Or if I mention liking a particular attribute of mine to her and she doesn’t seem to care about it.

4. What do you text to get a conversation started?
‘Wassup?’

5. Guys often say they were “too busy” to reply to a text. What does “too busy” mean?
They have other things to do at that moment than SMSing.

6. Ever broken up over SMS? Would you?
No. I did consider it once, but I feel it should be done in person. You can initiate a break-up over a message, though.

Abhinna Shreshtha, 25, writer with a music magazine
Relationship status: Single

1. Do you worry about what to SMS a woman who you might be interested in?
Yes. Because women tend to think too much and read a lot into things.

2. Do you follow any SMS rules?
Yes. I always keep my messages short and avoid using a lot of SMS language, as it might lead to confusion.

3. What’s the one thing that a girl might say over SMS that could put you off?
Women tend to be vague in their messages. It is difficult to understand what they’re saying, since you can’t hear the tone of voice or see their expressions.

4. What do you text to get a conversation started?
‘Hey, wassup?’

5. Guys often say they were “too busy” to reply to a text. What does “too busy” mean?
Either that we don’t want to reply, or we have something more interesting to do than getting into a long, drawn-out conversation.

6. Ever broken up over SMS? Would you?
I haven’t. And I wouldn’t. It’s too impersonal.

Runcil Rebello, 22, writer
Relationship status: Single

1. Do you worry about what to SMS a woman who you might be interested in?
Yes. You have to be extra careful with words. Women have a tendency to read too much into words.

2. Do you follow any SMS rules?
Yes. ‘No slang’ is Number One. I spell names with a capital, out of respect to the person.

3. What’s the one thing that a girl might say over SMS that could put you off?
Anything good about another guy. That would put me off.

4. What do you text to get a conversation started?
‘Hi, how are you?’

5. Guys often say they were “too busy” to reply to a text. What does “too busy” mean?
We reply quickly to women we are interested in. So, it either means we are not interested, or that we’re really busy.

6. Ever broken up over SMS? Would you?
No. One should have the decency to tell her on the face. Also, have the courage to do so.

Ahil Amar, 25, Social Media Executive
Relationship status: Single

1. Do you worry about what to SMS a woman who you might be interested in?
Yes. I would rather call, as you have to think a lot about what to type. It’s not spontaneous and often turns out to be a mess.

2. Do you follow any SMS rules?
Yes. I keep it as short as possible and don’t send more than four or five messages in a day. I also ask if I can call instead.

3. What’s the one thing that a girl might say over SMS that could put you off?
If I send a long message and get a monosyllabic reply, it turns me off. It’s a conversation killer.

4. What do you text to get a conversation started?
If it’s at night, ‘How was your day’ and if it’s in the morning ‘What plans for the day?’.

5. Guys often say they were “too busy” to reply to a text. What does “too busy” mean?
They are busy. If it’s important, I would call back.

6. Ever broken up over SMS? Would you?
No. I would meet her in person, as texting is too impersonal.

Kartik Kulkarni, 24, Freelance sound engineer and designer
Relationship status: committed

1. Do you worry about what to SMS a woman who you might be interested in?
I used to when I was teenager. Not anymore, though.

2. Do you follow any SMS rules?
It depends on who I am messaging.

3. What’s the one thing that a girl might say over SMS that could put you off?
‘I see you as a good friend.’ What follows is not good.

4. What do you text to get a conversation started?
‘Hey, wassup?’ or ‘How are you?’

5. Guys often say they were “too busy” to reply to a text. What does “too busy” mean?
Either I am busy, or not up for a chat.

6. Ever broken up over SMS? Would you?
No. You don’t know the exact emotion through a text and it’s too impersonal.

Technology, more bane than boon for single guys?
According to the recent survey conducted by dating-advice site, TSB Magazine, men claimed that trying to communicate with a woman over sms at the start of a potential romantic relationship is the most frustrating aspect of the dating game. 32% of the men polled said that they were confused about what to say via text message, and when to say it.The next most popular anxiety-inducing concern was having a conversation with a woman they had just met — in the real world.

3 texts you should never send her at the start of a relationship
Bobbi Rio, founder of the men’s interest site TSB Magazine, and author of Magnetic Messaging, addressed to aspiring, but clueless Don Juans around the world, claims there are certain things smooth guys never say to a woman they’re interested in, over sms. Rio’s top three SMS conversation pitfalls
to avoid:
1. ‘How’s your day going?’
2. ‘What you up 2?’
3. ‘Hey.’u00a0

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