My girlfriend has started behaving strange. She has been making several demands which I cannot fulfill. She wants me to buy a house and a car before she commits. I know for sure that she doesn’t care for me like she used to before. I often ask her if it is time to let her go. We have been together for four years. But since the past six months, she seems to have lost interest in me. Or perhaps she is bored of me. Sometimes I wonder if there is someone else on the scene. We have been having constant squabbles. We are no longer on the same page. I have tried to talk to her, but she refuses to listen. I think it is time to let her go. At the same time, she is clinging on and making things difficult for me. What should I do? After all these years, it will be difficult for me. I am already feeling sad and dejected.
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Your girlfriend is dropping hints, but at the same time is not going her way. You cannot force her to love you. Give yourself a little time to ponder before telling her that it is better that you went your way. Your relationship has reached a plateau. If you do not want to cut off ties with her, take a break in the relationship. You will feel your life is falling apart, but time will heal all wounds. Do not look back, but before that you need to take a decision. If you do decide to let her be in your life, then she will continue with her highhandedness. You need to gain back your self-esteem and find someone who will reciprocate your love. You have given your all to the relationship, but she has not. So why stick around such a girl?
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