'Why does he keep asking me to send him pics?'
Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age
My boyfriend asks me to send him photographs of myself on WhatsApp all the time, but I'm not comfortable with this. What do I tell him?
Tell him you're not comfortable and explain to him what your reasons are. It's your body, your photographs, and entirely your right to decide whether or not you want to share them with anyone. Technology is a tricky thing, because what you share need not be private anymore, so don't do something you're not happy with. If he doesn't understand this, he will simply have to live with it.
My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, and we agreed to get married a few months ago. She didn't actually give me a date for the actual ceremony though. My parents want me to get married this year, but she is in no hurry because her parents aren't putting any pressure on her. I keep asking her to finalise a date, but she says she needs time, which doesn't make sense because we have already agreed to spend the rest of our lives together. I have reached a stage where I am prepared to end this relationship simply because she doesn't want to go ahead. What should I do?
I don't really understand why you need the ceremony more than you need to spend time with her. If it's a practical reason, I suppose she would understand and do the needful but if, as you say, it is only your parents who are compelling you to marry this year, is that reason enough to end a relationship you have built and nurtured for three years? The fact that you both want to spend the rest of your lives together is beautiful, and ought to be enough until she's ready to sign that document. It's your call though. If you believe it's worth throwing this away without trying to understand what her reasons for procrastination actually are, make sure you think it through.
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